Having someone around who you can rely on to give you an honest opinion with good Intentions can be very helpful.
They are balanced in their praise and fair in their criticisms.
The challenge of being an "all round" person means we need to know the characteristics we exhibit.
Two comments about myself got me thinking recently.
Apparently I am told, "givers are poor takers" and where someone is trying to be serious about how I might be facing challenges (because they care) I use humour to distract them as If to say "Oh, dont be worrying about me".
Ouch! Well I did ask!
Heres an admission....they are both right.
I am much happier helping others than seeking help and yes its true, I try to make people laugh to distract them from knowing my Innermost concerns in life.
On the surface I thought this was a reasonable and commendable approach.
Heres the problem - put to me to rethink it.
It frustrates peoples ability to show their genuine care and has the ability to offend them, since I am creating an unwitting form of rejection.
Pride is good but I needed to be sure It was not a form of lacking modesty.
Thankfully I was reassured that this could never be laid as a charge at me! Phew, thank goodness for that.
Now I know I intend to see this from the other persons point of view.
I can still keep giving but having the good grace to allow people to express some appreciation without feeling embarrased or uncomfortable is something i must work on.
All praise on a Postcard please to...............
Lets see how I get on.
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